New Year’s Resolution – Not what you may think

Happy 2016 everyone! If last year was a suck fest, now you don’t have to worry about it any more! Because 2016 is a new year, a new opportunity, and a new resolution to fulfill.

A New Years Resolution is the best way to bring in a new year. Making new goals to accomplish, in order to become a better you by next years resolution. But to make our new goal, we need to look at the bigger picture. For example if you are writer, you may be attempting to write your first novel in this new year, or if you are over weight, attempting to reclaim your health by going to the gym regularly.

The big picture is what some people need right now, maybe even most people. I know the big picture is what I needed seven months ago when I lost my corporate job. Its good to have a sense of direction and purpose.

Myself, I feel like if I go anymore big picture, my mind will actuality explode. For you see, I never really left planning the big picture from seven months ago. At almost every opportunity, I am organizing and planning in an attempt to achieve my end goal. Rockstar-dom.

Here is the funny thing about constantly planning for the end goal, you burn yourself out before you even get any where near it.

Guys, this is how bad I get. This past year I had the privilege of exchanging a few messages with a hero of mine, Ariel from the band Icon for Hire. In this exchange I was telling her about my various plans to achieve rockstar-dom and if she had any advice. I will never forget what she told me. “Remy, let me tell you from someone who has been there, you need to chillout. Because when you are so fixated on the end goal, you miss out on all the little moments along the way.”

Just like with everything, there needs to be a balance. We need to have a goal to motivate us, but we need to remember to live in the moment too.

So that is why this year one of my own resolutions is to remember to live in the moment a bit more. If you are a perfectionist like I am, you may know how difficult of an undertaking this can be. However I have already discovered a few tricks that have been helping me out. One of which is to be still.

Literally, don’t do anything. Don’t think about yourself or what you ‘should’ be doing. Instead just think about your surroundings. For example, the strange woven texture on your bedside lamp shade that you never noticed before, or why you think that tree in the distance grew slightly sideways.

Another tip I have discovered is that repetitive motion helps to process thoughts and emotions. It’s one of the reasons I love running. One foot, then the other, then the other, so on and so forth. If running is not your thing, then walking. Especially night walking. The serenity of the night, breathing in the fresh, cool air, and just walking for no real allotted amount of time. Allowing yourself to not stick to a clock for a while so you can have room to just process.

The last one is breathing. I mean past that whole, ‘needing it to live thing’. Taking a moment to physically stop, draw in a deep breath through the nose, and out through mouth a few times can be a huge attitude changer.

New Years can be a great opportunity to create some new goals and maybe even make some huge changes in our lives. Changes big and small. However for me, I am going to take a step back from planing and learn how to chillout.

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